Today I share a recent survey has revealed that many mothers felt left out of the Wedding planning process of their daughter’s wedding, with 40% of brides’ mothers wishing they had been more involved.
The study, conducted by clothing brand Marisota, investigated Mother of the Bride’s opinions on being involved in wedding planning, how it has affected their relationship with their daughter as well as experiences of choosing a Mother of the Bride dress.
Despite 40% of mothers wanting to be more involved in wedding planning, more than half stated that the planning they were involved in strengthened their relationship with their daughter.
Only a quarter of respondents claimed to have a close relationship with their daughter prior to the wedding with a staggering 54% expressing improvements in their relationship due to assisting in wedding planning.
When questioned what tasks the Mother of the Bride should be involved in, 40% thought they should be involved in choosing the wedding dress, with a third wanting to be involved in selecting the guest list.
Despite many feeling they should have a say in who attends the wedding, only 1 in 10 wanted to be involved in the traditional role of hosting the wedding rehearsal.
Many Mother of the Brides commented that their main role is to provide general support and advice without interfering with the bride and groom’s decisions, acknowledging that it is, after all, their daughter’s day and final decisions should be theirs.
In relation to choosing a dress for themselves for the big day, a surprising 64% involved their daughter in helping them to choose a Mother of the Bride dress.
A large percentage found this task to be difficult (23%) or very difficult (31%), perhaps indicating why they asked for the bride’s advice.
The main reasons for this difficulty, according to comments given, include the struggle to find attractive clothing that suits their size, flatters the body parts they like and hide those they don’t.
Many also commented that Mother of the Bride dresses are often in old fashioned and frumpy styles.
Marisota’s Brand Manager, Simon Haughton commented “Planning a wedding can be a worry and is stressful.
Marisota understands from research how important daughters are in playing a key role in choosing outfits for big events.
Marisota helps with this, our dresses have Shapeology, allowing women to choose outfits that make the best of their shape, hiding parts she may feel most conscious about, making her feel confident and look perfect for the special day.”
Other comments also included choosing a dress that complements the colour scheme and that is within the Mother of the Bride’s budget.
The selection of Mother of the Bride and occasion dresses available is ever growing, with many styles available to flatter every shape, size and fashion sense.
Asking for second opinions from the bride, Mother of the Groom or other friends and family members could provide more confidence in that all important outfit for a big day in a mother’s life.
Joanna Hope Petite Occasionwear – Dress and Bolero
Sleeveless georgette dress with back concealed zip fastening and self fabric back ties.
Georgette bolero with kimono style sleeves. Dress fully lined.
Joanna Hope Sequin Maxi Dress and Scarf
In a beautiful shade of magenta with glittering beaded embellishment, this stunning Joanna Hope bias-cut dress and scarf is the perfect way to make a style statement.
Sparkling beading to front and back. Bias-cut. Fully lined.
Co-ordinating plain scarf included. Beautiful georgette fabric.
V-neck shape to front and back. Sleeveless with wide straps to conceal bra.
Joanna Hope Lace Dress and Bolero
Joanna Hope Petite.
Stretch lace dress with concealed back zip fastening and back vent detail to hem.
Contrast satin lining.
Short sleeved bolero jacket jacket in a stretch dull satin fabric with contrast lace trim to edges.
Thank you so much to Marisota for sharing their interesting research.
Personally I think, if possible, its lovely to have your Mums input into Wedding Planning.
Their advice of what worked for them and what didn’t is important to know.
Its also lovely to have their input on your Dress (if there is tears its good -generally!) and for you as a Bride to help them to choose a mother of the Bride Dress.
As always there is boundaries, and its got to be remembered that it is your day, and all final decisions are yours.
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*Note* – This data was gathered from a Facebook poll with 429 respondents.
The poll was completed between 19.05.2014-01.06.2014.
Marisota are an inclusive clothing brand, offering clothing in sizes 12 to 32.
They are the home of Shapeology as well as specialising in Mother of the Bride and occasion wear.