Today I want to focus on remembering special people whilst celebrating our most special of days, our Wedding.
A wedding represents a new beginning for the bride and groom, a “birth” of their new life together
But to truly celebrate the future, it is important to remember the past, and those that have influenced our lives in some special way.
So I find that a good way to do this is to involve those that are special to you.
From a personal point of view, we dedicated two of the dances at our wedding to my husband’s mum who had passed a few years earlier.
She loved Jennifer Rush’s “The Power of Love” and Chris De Burgh’s “Lady in Red” and though it was hard for him, and my sister in law, it made his mum a big part of our day.
Aside from dedicating a song or dance to a loved one, you can consider : –
A special framed photograph either of those that have passed but who you want to remember , or Wedding Photos of your parents and Granparents representing a family tree of sorts.
You can remembering your loved one in a speech
You can light a candle in memorial, or light a Unity candle.
An incredibly beautiful way of involving your Guests is to give them all a candle and as you walk back up the aisle, light the candle of the first in the pew and they in turn can light everyone elses, this means that everyone can share in the light of your love.
You can choose charity pins for favours ie. Cancer Research pins, British Heart Foundation pin, or suggest a charity donation instead of gifts to your guests.
This tends to be an incredibly personal act as there have been many of us touched in this way.
You can incorporate the person’s favourite flowers in your bouquet or wedding flowers, and/or leaving your bouquet on the grave of the loved one that has passed.
Another thing that is becoming increasingly popular in recent times is the Heirloom bouquet where you can use jewellery of brooches of a family member to make up a lasting reminder that will never fade or wilt.
Also wearing a piece of jewellery that was special to the person, can make them feel much closer to you on the day like a string of pearls or some diamond earrings, or the Groom can wear a pocket watch.
We find that if we choose to pay tribute to those that have passed, then those moments spent remembering will be some of the fondest of the day.
We know that our loved ones are with us in spirit, but remembering special people on one of the most important days of our lives is a very poignant way to say “Thank You” for helping make us the people we are.
Image Credit: Sarah Ropke @ Key Reflections Photography