There is a true and voluminous beauty in growing old together, sharing a lifetime of love, experiencing both those moments of joy, and of pain.
Sujata Setia is a photographer who travels the world running photography workshops who often asks long married couples to pose for her, capturing their love in engagement style shoots in a project inspired by the beautiful relationship of her grandparents.
What is created is both breathtaking and endearing and a celebration of a life well lived as a couple.
Sujata is a London based, multi-award winning children, newborn, pregnancy /maternity and family photographer.
She says her love for capturing the genre began when she began to capture moments that her daughter shared with her Grandma and then when she began volunteering at a charity for the elderly.
Working with these older people showed her that there is so much to be learned and gained from this generation.
They have seen the world and experienced hardships, there is no vanity and all there is left is a raw beautiful honesty shared.
Tranquility can be captured from those that have found comfort in growing old together and there is so much more peace in their heads and hearts than the restlessness of youth.
Growing old together IS the ultimate marriage goal, and sometimes in the intensity of wedding planning the long term is forgotten in a flurry of details.
In those first days of marriage you are committing yourself to someone for the rest of your life, to be their protector, the one they trust the most and to go through life and its challenges as a unit no matter what life throws at you.
Sometimes your dreams for the future are pretty well defined but for sometimes you aren’t really very sure of what you expect that future to be like, until you experience unhappiness and disappointment that doesn’t measure up to life and societies expectations of perfect.
Life isn’t a fairytale, and who knows what the universe has planned for us.
All too often too people are snatched away in the prime of their lives who don’t get the chance to celebrate their golden years together.
Life in that instance sucks so we owe it to ourselves, and to love to ensure that those we care about are made to feel special every single day even when its really challenging, as we don’t know how long we will have together.
Spending the rest of your life with someone takes work, and love like anything in life is always a learning experience, and growth comes with sustained effort.
Tools for long term love are making time for each other, practising good communication including having those awkward talks even when you really don’t want to, and really listening to each other.
Grand gestures are lovely but making those everyday memories are essential too like a walk in the park, little notes on the fridge, running a bubble bath with candles all around.
Simple things like holding hands, slipping in ‘I love you’ into casual conversations, little surprises without occasion or reason and making each other laugh are incredibly important, and are the lifeblood of relationships.
Sujata says it was really funny to see the reactions of the couples when asked to take part in the shoots as they are not a generation thats ever had engagement photos captured or being asked to kiss on camera before.
But her work shows us that a true love that grows through decades exists, and every image lights up sharing that special bond that growing old together brings…
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