Fab at 40…and reaching Acceptance of Myself.

Today is my 40th Birthday, and I am determined to be Fab at 40.

I have reached an age where its time to appreciate that life can throw you many curveballs but its how you deal with them that makes you.

I have spent years not believing in me but thats going to change.

My dreams are achieveable through hard work, perseverance and a dogged determination to stay true to myself, and to keep reaching for the stars.




A few nights ago  I watched “Legally Blonde” for about the zillionth time.

I love that movie, its lighthearted and fun whilst having a positive message too.

In the movie Elle has trouble with feeling accepted.

Feeling acceptance is something most of us struggle with.

It starts in kindergarden, and then school and eventually into our working life.

Even a few years into business I still feel like the geeky girl in glasses in the school playground trying to find her way, and I know I am not alone.

I frequently see, and talk to people within the Wedding Industry that feel marginalised, and feel like they are on the outside looking in, struggling to catch a break.

Much like school, the workplace can be very cliquified, and though we are our own people, and don’t really want to be part of those situations its sometimes its hard to break through the many barriers, and be allowed the chance to shine.

But what we saw from the movie and what I inherently know is that what you must remain is uniquely you, you don’t have to change or conform.

Not everyone will like you…there will be those that do, and those that most definetely don’t.

You don’t have to tone yourself down to fit, you don’t have to water down your inherent awesomeness to be something that others think you should be.

You will face opposition but you must believe in yourself.

Don’t be surprised or scared about that opposition because it does happen.

You will feel sometimes that you make one step forward and then two back but work hard and show people what you are made of.

But remember to be accepted  by others you first must accept yourself and how wonderful you actually are. You don’t need others validation ( though if we are honest we all crave it)

The beauty of self acceptance will radiate from you and draw people to the special person you are, and you are special…don’t let anyone ever tell you different!

The closing scene from the Movie epitomises this, and these words really  impacted me and I would like to share  an excerpt of Elles Valedictorian Speech.

“On our very first day at Harvard, a very wise Professor quoted Aristotle: “The law is reason free from passion. Well, no offense to Aristotle, but in my three years at Harvard I have come to find that passion is a key ingredient to the study and practice of law – and of life.”

“It is with passion, courage of conviction, and strong sense of self that we take our next steps into the world, remembering that first impressions are not always correct.”

“You must always have faith in people. And most importantly, you must always have faith in yourself.”


That faith is something  that is always a work in progress but I am getting there.
To add one of my favourite songs just now is Little Mix “Change your Life” which speaks of achieving what you know you can by the power of what already exists within you…These words could not ring more true.

As I celebrate this day and the next phase of my life, I just want to say I will be Fab at 40…and the best is yet to come!


UK Wedding Blogger with an eclectic style based in Glasgow


  1. Reply

    Happy Birthday Alison, and what a wonderfully positive blog post. You should definitely believe in yourself ~ we all do, because you rock! 🙂 Glad you are seeing it too xxx

  2. Reply

    Happy Birthday Alison xx Great post!

  3. Reply

    Happy Birthday Alison, All the best. Hope you have a fab day today… enjoy 🙂 xx

  4. Reply

    Happy birthday Mrs P

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