Most people say that the Wedding Day is all about the Bride but there are two people in a Marriage so I’m thrilled to share some essential advice for Grooms
Chris Schuepfer gives the boys some tips on how you can be the perfect Groom and the man of her dreams all wrapped up in one handsome package.
It’s Your Big Day Too
With all the planning and expense that goes into a wedding ceremony, it’s easy to lose sight of the real reason that everyone is gathered together.
Take a moment to remind yourself that you and your bride will be starting your lives together, and that all the fuss is a form of celebration.
When you remind yourself of that fact, it will seem less of a chore to polish your shoes and take a bit of extra effort with your hair.
Chances are, your bride has spent months shopping for the perfect dress, headpiece and shoes.
She has probably fussed over flowers and bridesmaids ensembles. Undoubtedly, she has tried half a dozen special hairdos as well.
You may be more laid back about things.
Traditionally, the groom’s big responsibilities involved buying an engagement ring and maybe planning the honeymoon.
Of course, your bride loves you for your character and charm, but the days when the groom’s concern with his appearance began and ended with a rented tux are long gone.
These days, grooms are expected to step up to the plate and look sharp.
“S” Is for Shower, Shave and Shampoo
Your wedding day routine might not start with a trip to the beauty parlor, but that doesn’t mean you can roll out of bed and show up with a bed head look and five-o-clock shadow. Your bride really wants you to be freshly shaved and showered.
Don’t forget to brush and floss your teeth, and to finish the job with mouthwash.
She would really appreciate it if you fussed a bit with your hair as well.
Splurge on a special cut or trim the day before, and ask the barber or stylist about product to make your hair look its best.
But use a light touch. If your bride runs her fingers through your hair, you don’t want her to wind up with a hand full of goo.
Whether you have facial hair or not, grooming your face neatly is of the utmost importance on your wedding day.
Remember that your ceremony will end with a kiss!
Be sure that your facial skin is kissable by giving yourself an extra close shave.
Use a fresh razor or the best electric shaver that you can afford. Splash on a bit of cologne after shaving for good measure.
Save the Booze for the Reception
You may be nervous about forgetting your vows, but do yourself and your bride a favor and skip that drink before the ceremony.
Especially if you and your buddies had a rowdy bachelor party the night before, the last thing you need is more alcohol.
And your bride doesn’t necessarily want to taste stale beer or hard liquor when she kisses you.
If you’re really wound up the night before the wedding, taking a mild sleep aid may be OK.
However read the directions twice and take the absolute minimum dosage necessary to allow you to get a good night’s sleep.
Alternatively try a non-caffeinated tea or a warm bath.
No Lighting Up
If you can’t kick the habit for good, at least give it up on your wedding day.
That means no pipes and definitely no cigars or cigarettes. (This advice applies to illegal substances as well as tobacco.)
Even if you and your bride are both smokers, kissing an ashtray is no way to start married life together.
Not to mention the fact that smoking will deposit a stale odor onto your wedding ensemble and your hair, which can negate any effort you put into showering or applying fragrance.
In addition to making you smell bad, smoking on the big day poses a potential risk.
If you’re in the least bit nervous, you could wind up burning a hole in your wedding ensemble. Worse, you could conceivably start a fire.
The idea seems far-fetched, but stranger things have certainly happened.
Make Your Lips Kiss Worthy
Have you every rubbed your hand across sandpaper? If your lips are cracked and dry, your bride could feel as though she was kissing two rough pieces of sandpaper when the officiant says “you may kiss your bride.”
Give her a break and take a few simple measures to make your lips kiss worthy.
Start by brushing a wet toothbrush gently across your lips, either immediately after brushing your teeth or after your shower when your skin is moist, so the excess skin is brushed away easily.
Apply a light coating of Vaseline or lip balm to make your lips extra soft and smooth. Your bride will appreciate your efforts.
No matter how much you’re looking forward to tying the knot, your wedding day represents a long day of vows, dancing, toasts and picture taking. Especially picture taking.
Make a special effort to stand or sit up straight, especially for those formal shots with the bride and your families.
Of course, you’re allowed to relax a bit during the reception – after all, it’s intended to be a celebration.
But you never know when someone will snap a photo, and you don’t want to be hunched over or draped over a chair. It’s definitely not a good look.
If you catch yourself slipping or slouching, consider the fact that your bride has to deal with a gown, a head piece and perhaps even high heels, and consider yourself lucky.
Enjoy the Day
On your wedding day, everyone’s attention will be mainly focused on the bride. That’s to be expected. But it’s your big day too.
After all, a wedding requires two people to exchange vows before an officiant and witnesses.
Your bride will definitely appreciate the effort you make to look good, smell great and be on your toes during the ceremony.
Not only will you make your bride happy, you’ll have clearer, more pleasant memories of the ceremony as well, not to mention fewer regrets when you look back at your photo album.
Thanks to Chris for sharing this awesome advice for Grooms. Its always great to get a little guidance on how to ensure your Big Day goes without a hitch.
Author Credit: Chris Schuepfer is a men’s lifestyle coach.
He enjoys helping men make the most of their lives and his articles mainly appear on lifestyle magazines and blogs.
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